Letting go seems to be one of the most difficult things for most of us to do, yet it’s the most rewarding and freeing experience we can ever give ourselves. The ability to let go frees us emotionally, physically, and spiritually.
There is often a misconception as to what “letting go” really means, so first let’s clear that up.
When we let go, we let go of the fears and other negative beliefs or circumstances that hold us back from moving forward. In essence, we are letting the universe know “Okay, it’s in your hands. I’m not going to fear any obstacle or outcome. I will accept what comes my way and deal with each day and circumstance as it arises”. Then we sincerely trust that everything will work out so we can move forward with confidence and courage. In short, we do not allow our negative belief systems to get in our way and we stop worrying about the things that we cannot control or change.
Once we are able to let go, we dispel an enormous amount of negative energy from our bodies and allow positive, loving energy to move through us. When we hold on to the negative belief system, we block the flow of positive energy and it cannot move through us. How can we manifest our desires if the source of our power and strength is held up at the gate? Do you see how this works?
The misconception is this:
Letting go does not mean to sit back and wait for something to happen. Absolutely not. You’re in for a huge disappointment if that’s what you believe, and often those who believe this end up asking “why me?” or “why not me?” and fall head first into the victim trap. Once we’re in the victim trap, we tend to attract more circumstances that keep us bound there.
Letting go means to move forward with faith and confidence and without fear of failure, abandonment or rejection. We most certainly have to take action in order to make it happen, but we can only do so by letting go.
Learning acceptance and letting go applies to everything in life. This includes a difficult breakup; if a family member isn’t speaking to us; if diagnosed with a serious illness; so on and so forth. As difficult as it may seem at the time, we have the ability to let go of fear, anger, resentment and other negative beliefs. Feel them, acknowledge them and then release them.
When we hang on, we not only prevent ourselves from attracting joy into our lives, but we poison our bodies which leaves us vulnerable to all types of negative circumstances, disease and illness. If an illness already exists within us, holding on to negative thoughts about it can only worsen the condition and prevent its healing.
When dealing with a breakup, the emotions can paralyze us and letting go may seem impossible. Sometimes we remain in a relationship that we know isn’t good for us just because we’re afraid to let go of it. We may be afraid to be alone, or our financial security may at risk. This type of holding on can bring about toxic and even devastating circumstances for both parties.
So, how do we let go?
Understanding and accepting that our thoughts and actions are the only thing which we have absolute control over is the first step in the letting go process. There are also many other rituals that we can incorporate into our daily life that will assist us such as meditation, positive affirmations, and continuing to read, listen, watch and learn about ourselves and others.
There is no magic formula to letting go; this is something that we have to learn with practice. Deep, mindful breathing and continuing to remind ourselves that we only have control over ourselves; then releasing all negative energy and filling our minds with pleasurable thoughts. When the negative feelings begin to creep back in, repeat. Keep repeating this process as the need to hold on to negative feelings returns. By making this a habit, it becomes easier and easier to let go until eventually it becomes a way of life.
Letting go is just one aspect of the personal development journey, but a crucial part. We will always be faced with challenges, negative thoughts and feelings, but how we respond to them will determine our reality. By learning the art of letting go, we are transforming our entire life, inspiring those around us and allowing ourselves to experience true joy. And without the experience of joy, what is there?