Affirming your affection for your partner is an important part of any relationship. Thoughtful love messages are easy, fool-proof ways to give your girlfriend or boyfriend some attention while you’re away at work or school. It doesn’t have to be Valentine’s Day, a birthday, or any other special occasion to let your significant other know that you appreciate them with a quick message. As a dating psychologist, I see these love messages as a really easy way to help maintain a healthy relationship.
Make it Good
Good is a bit of a misnomer, you shouldn’t try to make it good so much as sincere and personalized. The love message you send to your special lady or man shouldn’t be like the terms of service on some software you purchased. You shouldn’t try to say things you normally wouldn’t or it won’t sound the way you intended. Remember that message doesn’t convey subtle inflections, so readers can’t tell sarcasm from sincerity. You can personalize a message by calling the person by name, or referencing a shared experience, like, “Remember that time…”
You shouldn’t be afraid to let your emotions show through in your message. The love message isn’t about your burning desire for your partner; it’s about letting them know that you think about them when you’re not together. A little humor can go a long way, but if something really frustrates you and you need to vent, a simple, “I’m upset at…” can be cathartic. You can even be cheesy, which usually is worth a laugh. Try lines like, “If I could change the alphabet, I would put U and I together,” or the ever-classic, “Did it hurt when you fell down from heaven?”
Boys and Girls are Different
It’s no secret that men and women communicate differently, and it’s definitely true with love messages. I’ve found that most people need some tips for communicating effectively with the opposite sex.
Most men are not very good at conveying their emotions, which is problematic, but easy to overcome when you realize that there’s no shame in letting your special lady know that you like her around. Simple message, like “I’m awfully lucky to be with a girl like you,” is a great start, and you can write message was long poetic as you want.
Women tend to be much better than men at expressing themselves, but therein lies a problem. Many men see frequent message as a sign of dependence, and many are afraid of that. The trick is often limiting the number of messaes you send. My personal rule is never to send more than 2 emotional message per day, but each person has different needs, and each boyfriend or husband handles these differently, so feel free to experiment with your squeeze.
Message messages aren’t an ideal way to propose, but they are a convenient way of letting your special somebody know that you are thinking about them. As long as your message is sincere and personal, it’ll be good. Give it a try!